The Complete Guide To Giving A Wedding Speech

The Complete Guide To Giving A Wedding Speech

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Whether you are the bride, groom, father of the bride, or best man, the prospect of giving a speech in front of loads of people can be a pretty daunting one. Here are some wedding speech tips to help you through the nerves.

The Complete Guide To Giving A Wedding Speech

Introduction: Wedding Speeches & How to Give the Perfect One

Speeches are an integral part of any wedding. This can be a daunting experience for the best of us.

The perfect wedding speech is one that is sincere, heartfelt and entertaining. However, that can be a lot to live up to, especially if giving a speech isn’t something you’re used to.

If you want to write the speech yourself, all you need is some time to sit down and write your thoughts out before the big day comes along.

You can use this time to also think about what you want to say and what kind of tone you want your words to have.

Do you want to be funny? Sincere? Serious? Emotional?

If this isn’t an option for you, then hiring someone could be the next best thing. There are also lots of websites that offer speech writing tips and advice.

What are the Ingredients for a Great Wedding Speech?

A good speech is entertaining, emotional, relevant, and short  – ideally under five minutes but between five and eight is fine.

It is important for a speaker to know their audience. Yes, rude jokes are common during weddings, especially during the best man’s speech.

However, the last thing you want to do is upset anyone so do be mindful of other guests, in particular the older generation and the brides family.

The Complete Guide To Giving A Wedding Speech

A good speech should have just enough anecdotes, jokes, and stories to keep people interested in what they are saying without going on for too long or people getting bored.

Below is one of my favourite ever wedding speeches on Youtube. Of course, I know most best men wouldn’t want to go to these lengths but I think it provides a great example of being tongue in cheek with the jokes without being rude or offensive.

Hopefully, this makes you smile as much as I did!

The Power of Emotional Stories in Wedding Speeches That Resonates with Everyone

According to a study by the University of Florida, people respond better to emotional stories than they do with a direct approach. This is because they can empathize more with a story and feel the emotions felt by the speaker.

In addition, emotional stories have been found to be more effective when they are not being told from a third-person perspective. Instead, it’s best when these types of stories are told from first-person perspective because it makes them more relatable and less formalized.

At our wedding, the best was apparently torn between two stories to tell – one about stealing cigarettes with the groom when they were teenagers and one about the groom telling him after a night out together that I was the girl he wanted to marry. He went with the former and to be honest, I’ve never forgiven him.

Why You Should Put Your Personality Into Your Wedding Speech

One of the most common mistakes speakers make is forgetting to put their personality into their speech. This can make it feel like a generic, boring speech. Not only will the groom and bride remember you better, but they will also appreciate that you put your time and effort into it.

Best Man’s Speech Tips

A best man is a close friend of the groom and helps him plan and host his stag party. This best man’s speech should be filled with humour and should touch the bride to be groom’s parents and the rest of the audience.

Here are a few things to remember:

  • Keep it short and sweet – ideally under five minutes.
  • Don’t be too rude – tongue in cheek is better.
  • Compliment the bride and the bridesmaids.
  • Remember to include a toast.
  • Have some notes but try not to read everything from them.
  • Practice beforehand so you’ll feel more confident.

Father of The Bride Speech Tips

A father of the bride speech is one of the most important speeches in a person’s life. It’s your chance to show your daughter how much you love them and how much you’ll miss her.

From the moment she was born, to when she graduated college, you’ve been there for her, so now it’s time for you to be there for her one last time.

  • This can be an emotional one, so keep the tissues handy!
  • Let Mum say a few words too if she wants to.
  • Try and add some humour.
  • Finish with a toast.

Bride Wedding Speech

Who says the bride can’t say a few words on her big day? I know I wanted to at my own wedding, especially as there was a lot of extra people to thank as our wedding had a lot of DIY elements to it that friends and family were kind enough to help out with.

I also wanted to mention a few other things, such as a couple who would be celebrating their 35th wedding anniversary the next day. Making your own speech can be the perfect time to thank anyone who has given you extra support in the run-up to your big day or mention anything or anyone you feel the groom or best man didn’t cover adequately.

Groom Wedding Speech

Grooms speeches should be kept light and funny while acknowledging the importance of the day and of course mentioning their new spouse. While the groom’s speech typically thanks everyone involved, it shouldn’t seem like he is following a list.

  • Thank you’s should be warm and heartfelt and give everyone equal time. Even if it is tempting to go on about your new inlaws, don’t allow your own family to feel left out.
  • Thank parents for financial contributions if you want to but don’t mention numbers.
  • Tell the bride and bridesmaids how lovely they look.
  • Don’t drink too much beforehand, even if you think it will settle your nerves.

Speeches are an integral part of most wedding days.

That said, if you do feel they are an issue for you, there is nothing wrong with scrapping them altogether. I am all for brides and grooms doing what feels right for them and if that means no speeches then that’s fine (although this might raise a few eyebrows among older and more traditionally minded guests – feel free to ignore them though!)